Core Beliefs Part 1: Identifying and Understanding Core Beliefs

Core beliefs are the underlying ideas we hold about ourselves, others and the world. These ideas develop during childhood as you begin to use your relationships with caregivers and your own experience to interpret the world around you. From this learning and interpretation, you develop specific thoughts and rules that allow you to get your needs met. 

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Musterbation: The Danger in Shoulding All Over the Place

“Musterbation” is a term coined by famed psychologist Albert Ellis to describe the phenomenon whereby people live by a set of absolute and unrealistic demands that they place on themselves, others and the world. Recognizing the habit to set rules for yourself gives you the opportunity to relieve the stress these messages cause.  

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Mindfulness and Cancer 3: Making Peace with your Body

Many patients express that their relationship with their body has changed as a result of cancer. For some, their favorite feature has been distorted or overshadowed by physical changes resulting from surgery or radiation. For others, it is a sense of mistrust in their own human condition that has left them feeling shaken and unsure. Read more about how to change your relationship with your body using mindfulness techniques following your cancer diagnosis.

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The Threesome You Never Wanted

When couples learn that they are struggling with infertility, they are confronted with innumerable stressors. What was once spontaneous, private sexy time often becomes a prescribed, tracked and medically supported act. It is no wonder that many couples feel a tremendous lack of control when undergoing treatment for infertility. Read more about strategies for remaining closely aligned as a couple in your interactions with the medical system.

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Part 1: You Are Not Your Thoughts: Cognitive Defusion to Change Your Mood

Depression, one of the most common mental health issues in the United States, is characterized by negative thinking. Common depressive thoughts are, “Nothing ever goes right for me,” “What’s the point?”, “I’m a failure,” “I can’t handle it anymore.” These negative thoughts become the reality of the world we construct. Read more about how you can change your thinking to improve your mood. 

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